Masculine and feminine attributes have been bestowed on all of us no matter our gender. However, our society has stereotyped us from childhood to express the patterns of behavior which we believe are identified with our gender.
Using the masculine attributes as set out by Perry Nodelman’s Blog of May 24, 2009 “Conventional Attributes of Masculinity” we find six categories of attributes:
- Phallic masculinity, demonstrated by dominance, power, authority, go-getting, etc.
- Warrior masculinity; demonstrated by competitiveness, need to win, strong, silent, unemotional, self-control, invincibility
- Self-sufficient masculinity; demonstrated by egocentricity, fear of entrapment, non-needy, non-nurturing
- Group masculinity; demonstrated in male bonding, conformity to male group values, rigid. conservative, etc.
- Structural/cultural masculinity; developed by the patriarchal,
- Psychoanalytical masculinity; masculinity as tied up in relationships with father
With our society emphasizing these masculine attributes for many years it is no wonder we have created a patriarchal society based on power, control and the suppression of the feminine. With the impetus of the civil rights movement and recognition of this imbalance, we saw the rise of the Women’s Liberation Movement in the 1960’s and the 70’s.. An excellent start in creating the balance between the masculine and feminine we need today.
It is with this history in mind that we at The Essential Feminine™ Company believe that it is imperative that women understand and claim their feminine attributes and learn to use them to balance our world.
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Posted in Self-discovery, Growth and Change, Maureen Simon, success, Women and transformation, Women and empowerment, tagged influence, Power, confidence, Maureen Simon, awakening, The Essential Feminine, Claim Your Influence, Feminine voice on April 27, 2011 |
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Influence is a state of being. When we are living with our influence fully expressed doors open, life becomes easier and we make a difference. Power and influence are all directly connected. Power is the ability, strength, and capacity to do something. Influence is the effect of something on a person, thing, or event or the power that somebody has to affect other people’s thinking or actions by means of argument, example, or force of personality. When we believe we have the power to create change influence is a direct outcome.
It’s important for us to understand what we value in order to make a decision on where we want to place our attention in the world. Power is the energy behind influence and can be found in four specific realms: the spiritual, the intellectual, the emotional and the physical. Have you ever thought about the source of your power? Have you ever asked yourself where you place the majority of your power and influence?
Women have a great ability to influence the direction in which the world is moving but we must first understand our powerful and unique world view and value the strength and contribution of our voice. Voice is the medium or expression for power and influence. In my work with women, two of the greatest areas I have focused on over the years are clear expression of voice and the right use of will or influence. We need clarity and confidence to express our values through our voice.
Join us tomorrow to learn more about the influence you are making in the world today and about how success, influence and power play a major role in how you show up in the world. To join us at this exciting Living Room, please register at
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Posted in Women's development, Self-discovery, Growth and Change, Women Influencing Now, Maureen Simon, Women and transformation, Women and empowerment, tagged Power, change, Maureen Simon, The Essential Feminine, intention, contemplation., focus, lives aligned, gifts and guides, powerful life, inner connection on September 14, 2010 |
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What does life look and feel like when you are living with highly intentionally with focus and power? Today we read so much about conscious living that the opportunity to look closely at these issues are readily available and provide us with insights that can totally change the quality of our lives. The world has caught on to the idea that when we choose to live with clear intention and place our focus on this intention our sense of power and overall quality of life excel.
What are the aspects of intentional living that we need to incorporate into our lives or be aware of on a daily basis? Intentional living begins with a connection to ourselves, our inner voice and our sense of knowing on a daily basis. From this place of clarity and listening we begin to envision or become clear about what we want to create, be or contribute in a given day. This leads to a sense of focus and intention that allows us to both measure consciously the things that make up our days and lives, as well as to make choices to refine and improve the way we live.
We often get a feeling that we are living our lives aligned with the things we love or not. We often get signs or hunches that lead us to information or help us clarify feelings. These are gifts and guides that we need to listen to daily. I suggest having time in the morning in quiet or in contemplation to review what the day could ideally hold.
I have just started to look at some of the simple beginnings to creating a highly intentional, focused and powerful life. So many different components including deep inner connection, a clear sense of how we want to live our life (in all areas), a clear sense of what power and contribution meant to us – as they serve as driving forces and give us motivation to design an amazing life. This month we are going to look more closely at highly intentional living as I believe that many of us are clear that this is the only way to live. On September 22 at noon PST, we will be exploring this topic in The Essential Feminine™ Living Room and during the month of September we will be looking at the different components of an intentional life in our weekly blog. Stay tuned and join us in the Living Room. Please register at
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Posted in Comments on World News, Maureen Simon, success, Women Influencing Now, Women's development, Women's Leadership, tagged authentic self, expression and contribution, feminine nature, more to life for women, natural gifts, Power, success, uniqueness on October 27, 2009 |
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Many women are exploring ways to create more success in their lives. I think that’s great, but I think there’s more to life for women than just success. So often we have been putting on the trousers, climbing the ladder, and doing things in a masculine way in all areas of our life. The problem with this is that we inevitably leave an important part of our authentic self behind- our feminine self. It’s important to keep in mind that women are predisposed genetically and through socialization- to a whole series of unique assets talents and gifts that are special and sourced in our feminine nature.
How can we begin to use these feminine gifts in a way that allows us to contribute at a high level, fully expressing our power and doing so from a feminine perspective? The answer to this could lead you to one of the most freeing revelations of your life. Every woman has a personal response to this question in my twenty-five years of working with women I have heard hundreds. What’s yours?
We must first begin, by valuing our unique feminine gifts such as our verbal agility, our ability to give care and compassion, our Natural gift to see and perceive the whole of a situation, work environment or even the whole needs of the world. I believe these gifts come from having been the givers of birth and life since the beginning of time. That’s quite a credential. We need to claim this and live it in our work in corporations in our voice and concern in politics and thorough our unique and gentle care of our children and the planet. Social researchers have put a price on the value that women add to the bottom line in corporations. It’s time for us to value these gifts in all areas of our life.
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Posted in Uncategorized, Women's development, Women's Leadership, tagged confidence, empowerment, influence, Power, self-esteem, voice, women on May 22, 2009 |
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“ I had been raised to assume all power was outside myself, but they (men) had been raised to place power almost nowhere but within themselves. Often, they were suffering, too. Just as the fantasy of no control was the enemy of my self-esteem, the fantasy of total control was the enemy of theirs. For both of us, the goal should have been a point of balance in between: a back-and-forth between the self and others, uniqueness and unity, the planned and the accidental, our internal selves and the universe. As wise women and men in every culture tell us: the art of life is not controlling what happens to us, but using what happens to us.”
Gloria Steinem “Revolution From Within”
When we think about our influence and our sense of self, the idea of power becomes a central theme. Women have been a part of cultures that place power over her, as opposed to power with or next to her, for far too long. We need to realize that only if we recognize and claim it will our personal power becomes truly enlivened in our lives. This sense of strength manifests through our competence, our voice and our excitement towards living. Use your past experiences to guide your strength going forward. Never be victim to the challenging days that have passed but as Gloria says, use them to your benefit and advantage today.
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